I have chosen to have no children of my own. My sisters both live about 4000 km away so the only birth I have ever been present for was my own. I obviously have no memories of the event. My mom has always teased me that it was the first and only time I was early for any event. My dad told me I was born in a snowstorm. I was born in a hospital in Edmonton, Alberta. I am the oldest child in my family so for my parents it was a first. My dad was with my mom for the delivery. My mom and I stayed in hospital for 2 or 3 days. From the lens of child development birth is an important step. The bond between mother and child is begun. In my case, the stereotypical family was created. Parents always count toes and fingers, make sure the nose and eyes are placed properly, and see that all the body parts are present. Even in this age of images in utero, seeing is believing.
I now live in the Netherlands. I have heard many birth stories from my colleagues here. They all gave birth at home with a midwife. Their husbands were part of the process and they were up and about within hours of the birth. Although the birth itself is never without worry, work and pain, a home setting gave these moms a relaxing place that was familiar to them. I don't believe that either way of giving birth is better than the other. I think it is a choice a couple should make. In some births, the older siblings are also present and part of the process. In terms of future development, I think the bonding with the parents is more important than the actual birth except in cases that have complications. When there are complications, I think medical care is vital in shaping the path the child's development will take.